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For Couples

Let's Get to Know
Each Other. Again.

You've been together for years. You finish each other's sentences. You know their coffee order, their sleep position, their Netflix password.

But do you know what they actually want right now? In bed? In life? From you?

Answer 26 questions on your own. Send the link to your partner. They answer the same ones. Then you see your answers side by side. No peeking. No editing. Just honesty.

This is a personal insight tool, just for fun. It's not a medical or psychological assessment and it's not a validated clinical instrument. It was inspired by published research from sexual psychology, attachment theory, and experts like Dr. Emily Nagoski, Esther Perel, and The Gottman Institute, but it's our own creative interpretation.

Your results are a starting point for reflection and conversation, not a diagnosis or label. If you're experiencing distress around sexual health, please reach out to a licensed healthcare provider.

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Enter your name, answer the questions, then share the link with your partner.

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What this is

  • 26 questions you each answer privately, then compare
  • Questions that go from easy to vulnerable (at your own pace)
  • Inspired by Gottman's research on what keeps couples together
  • Designed for midlife couples dealing with real body and desire changes
  • A side by side view so you can see where you align and where you don't

What this isn't

  • Not therapy. Not a replacement for professional help.
  • Not a test with right or wrong answers
  • Not a "gotcha" exercise to prove a point
  • Not something you spring on your partner without warning
  • Your answers are private until you both submit

5 categories. 26 questions.

You'll each answer every question privately. Then see your answers side by side.

The Warm UpStart here. No pressure.
5 questions
The Body TalkBecause everything changed.
5 questions
What I Actually WantThe questions nobody asks out loud.
6 questions
The Emotional StuffWhat's underneath all of it.
5 questions
The Next ChapterWhere do we go from here?
5 questions

"The conversation you're avoiding is the one your relationship needs most."

Adapted from Gottman's research on relationship maintenance

This isn't therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It's a conversation guide inspired by relationship research. If you're experiencing relationship distress, domestic violence, or mental health crises, please seek professional help. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.